“Act Like A Lady”
Who in the world coined this edict in the first place and why did Steve Harvey or his publisher, choose that outdated term for the title of his latest book? I suggest the more appropriate title of Act Like a Woman, Think Like a Man.
I, for one, am tired of the staid, boring, limited, constrained, unnatural, inauthentic, affected behavior of acting. What, I ask you, is wrong with a woman being a woman.
Acting connotes phoniness, pretend, trying to be someone we aren’t, a role we assume while on a stage. To call someone a lady is editorializing, describing a behavior. At times I act like a lady, but it is not who I am. I am a woman who is not required to always act like a lady. Similarly, a man is a man who does not always act like a gentleman.
I speak from experience, for I pretended to be someone other than myself for way too many years and almost lost the woman behind the mask. Today I focus on being me.
I am not opposed to a woman acting like a lady under certain circumstances. Say, when she visits the Queen, the quintessential ‘Lady.’ Or when she gets invited to the Whitehouse to meet the President and his wife who, according to her title, must first and foremost ‘be a lady.’ God I hope she has time to not be!
One of my pet peeves is the names on bathroom doors that inform one restroom is for LADIES and the other for MEN! Why, I ask you, must women be a lady to use that restroom when men are not expected to act like a gentleman to do the same? Fair is fair. It should either be MEN and WOMEN or GENTLEMEN and LADIES.