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I Want Answers to my Questions, and I want them NOW!

Sometimes, I have found myself so overwhelmed with questions that, if I only knew the answers,  I would know which direction I should go. (I wonder if that is a female thing, or if men battle with indecision like me.)

Even tempted to pray that the answers would be handed down to me–as if on a silver platter. If God would just tell me what I was supposed to do, then I could do it and not agonize about whether I made the right decision or not. But, since no silver platter descended from the clouds, I agonized on, racing to an answer that often didn’t fit. So what did I do when it didn’t? I pushed and squeezed harder to make it fit.

Experience (lots of experience) has taught me to be patient with all those unsolved questions that swarmed my heart like a hive of killer bees.

These days, I try to be more patient with myself and instead of my desperate attempt to force the answers, to embrace the questions like I might a beautifully bound book that, when I open it and find it written in a foreign language, take it home with me anyway and give it a place of honor in my home.

Sometimes, the answers just aren’t there yet. Why? Because the timing of the answers is not yet–we are not ready to receive it.

When you catch yourself fighting the questions, instead, embrace them. Celebrate them. Examine them. Inhale them.  In other words, instead of grasping at answers, live the questions.

As we learn to live the questions, we will find ourselves living into the answers without even being aware that we are.

How about you? How do you handle it when life seems to toss you questions faster than you can come up with the answers? Share what works for you, or what doesn’t, by adding a comment on  this blog.

Questions are magical. Live the questions, live everything!


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  1. I’ve made my most life-changing decisions impulsively, which is completely uncharacteristic of me. But after making each choice, I felt at peace, sure that I’d chosen wisely. And everything has worked out. Later I realized that, even though I hadn’t been making lists of pros and cons or seeking outside counsel, I’d been turning the various issues over in my mind for a long time–just not in an organized way, and often not consciously. So when I was ready, the decisions I made seemed natural, nothing earth-shattering about them–even though the people around me were astounded because they hadn’t seen the change coming.

    October 11, 2011
  2. Interesting, Kathy. I think we might often do that even when we think we’ve made a quick decision. Sometimes, I’ve agonized over some of the simplest decisions–such as studying a restaurant menu, unable to decide what to order. One day my boss asked me how in the world I ever made a decision on the job, if it took me that long to decide on what to eat! That got my attention. Now, I practice making them fast. Go in, open the menu, pick out something, close it and order. End of story. Good practice! I think even that exercise helps me be a more decisive person–at least on minor things.

    October 12, 2011

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