Show Up, Pay Attention, Tell the Truth, Stay Unattached to the Outcome
TELL THE TRUTH
STAY UNATTACHED TO THE OUTCOME
And with that, my guide stone of: Intent, Integrity and Impeccability.
One of the most powerful things I’ve learned about showing up, paying attention, telling the truth, and staying unattached to the outcome is my casual contact with other people I come across on a daily basis.
I have noticed, so as a result, now make it a part of who I am, and that is the impact that casual contact can have on another human being–a stranger, if you will.
How? By engaging them in friendly conversation–a conversation that often lifts their gloom and brings a smile.
For example: In a check out line at a grocery store, the clerk looks disinterested, does not connect with me, appears weary, sad, or whatever. Instead of being critical of her lack of interpersonal skills or professional training, (which, I confess, I have been guilty of) now I delight in touching base with them on a personal level and hope my connection lifts their mood. I might smile, ask them about their day, and then support their response with a word of encouragement or empathy.
It does my heart good when they smile back, knowing that someone, if even for a brief moment, notices them, connects with their humanity, and genuinely cares.
They smile, they come out of their funk–they feel appreciated, and touched by the human contact. So often, people feel so isolated–disconnected–like they are machines — or caught up in personal issues. Many times they carry heavy responsibilities and are just plain weary.
For a stranger to care enough to connect with them makes a big difference in their day. I love watching their transformation, and hope they carry that with them the rest of the day–and pass it on. I know I do, for they, in turn, brighten my day.
I now find myself eagerly looking for opportunities to give a Good Morning, a bright smile, a light-hearted response, empathy, small talk, idle chit chat with people I don’t know.
My payoff? I like me better.
I encourage you to
SHOW UP to life.
PAY ATTENTION to those around you.
TELL THE TRUTH always, and there is always something kind we can say to another.
STAY UNATTACHED TO THE OUTCOME by giving others the freedom to respond as they can. In other words, don’t push the river.