The last few days, I’ve been thinking (which is dangerous in itself) about how so many of us look in a regular mirror and see distortions. We ask ourselves am I gaining weight? Do I need to change my hair color, style? I need to go to a tanning studio. I wish my nose wasn’t so big, or my boobs so small.
The next thought is often, okay, I can change that–lose weight, see a cosmetic surgeon, change hairdressers, work out more…
I have often obsessed about my hair cut or color and complained to my husband about it. Almost without fail, he says, “Sylvia, there is nothing wrong with your hair. It looks fine.” After more times of that interchange than I can to admit, I’ve finally decided to just take his opinion about it! <smile>
If we can do that much damage to our self-image, imagine what more damage we do, daily, to others who are unlike us. And in my crazy brain, I ask, if I look in the warped mirror and see myself as imperfect, why is it that I judge others who look differently, act or think differently than I do?
Could it be that I am so afraid to look “behind my eyes” (as Caroline Myss,Ph.D., describes in her ground-breaking book, Anatomy of the Spirit) that I spend my time judging others who I think fall short of my values, beliefs. Not nearly as scary as an inward look at my fears that I unconsciously allow to control me. Myss says:
Each of these belief patterns create consequences of the energy we spend on that belief. “Each belief, each action, has a direct consequence. When we share belief patterns with groups of people, we participate in energy and physical events created by those groups.
The beliefs we inherit are a mixture of fiction and truth. Eternal truths are a part of some of those beliefs, like murder is forbidden, but not all of them are such. As we develop spiritually, we are challenged to discard those beliefs that are not eternal, and embrace those that are. To do so, we must put aside the warped mirrors that are a part of our belief system. “Evaluating our beliefs is a spiritual and biological necessity. Our physical bodies, minds and spirits all require new ideas in order to thrive,” Myss says.
We learn about loyalty, trust, responsibility, justice and honor from those around us. Our tribe teaches us moral beliefs/attitudes that are essential to the well-being of the individual and the group. The All is One sacrament, if you will. However, our tribe can also become toxic–when it teaches us that those who are not like us–are against us. We use the excuse, ” Everybody does it this way. So why can’t I?” AND, it can become toxic with us not even realizing it.
I offer that human reasoning and justice can be a warped mirror we consult, hence, the mirror feeds us false information.
Warped Mirrors–don’t trust them, instead, use your reasoning power, and keep asking questions.
Beware Warped Mirrors.