I spent the weekend in California attending the wedding of my step granddaughter—a beautiful garden affair. Which, of course, when in a second marriage, usually involves being in the company of a spouse’s ex-wife—which this one did.
My husband and I have often talked about our former spouses, and the importance they play in our lives and in the lives of our children. We accept the fact that we each still care for those former spouses, and always will—and that love and care does not lessen the relationship we now have with each other.
I’ve always found it easy to talk to my “wife-in-law” (as a friend calls the former spouse of his wife—his husband-in-law). Actually, my wife-in-law and I chat easily about our shared family. As we did such at breakfast this weekend, she clasped my hand, looked me in the eye and said, “You are the best thing that ever happened to our family.”
Humbled by her comment, it got me to thinking about woman power—the love and support available to each of us when we accept the other without a feeling of them being a threat to us, or of our need to compete, to protect against, to put-down, mistrust, be jealous of, beat out, dress better than, have more than, stand higher socially, gossip about, etc.
Woman Power: Stand in it. Support each other. Regardless of what you receive, give love, acceptance, and gratitude.
And, if you have a wife-in-law, treat her with respect and dignity. Refuse to see her as a threat. Treat her as a friend. Develop Woman Power. Cultivate Woman Power. Treat your wife-in-law as family—for truly she is, and always will be. Woman Power makes for a better world. Woman Power.